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The Law of Attraction
By: Maria Bunnage, Wed May 19th, 2010
We are, in general, all attracted, either sexually, physically or personally to another
person or other persons. We don’t know how, but there is something that triggers our
desire when we see or meet a certain type of person. Without even knowing that person,
we know that they are “our type” and when we see such an example of our type, we
instantly realise the fact and we react to it by producing large amounts of pheromones.
There is a genetic trigger that urges us to find certain types of people that “fit” our taste in
a partner. We are, also by default, programmed to partners of a different genetic makeup
so we can create stronger offspring because of a wider variety of genes.
Apart from the stereotype celebrities, actors and actresses, models and beautiful people
whom we secretly and sometimes quite openly adore and feel attracted to, we all have
“our type”, which includes body type, body shape, hair colour, eyes and a whole lot of
other physical attributes that trigger our desire. Personality is of course another
important factor; do we go for the outgoing and confidence or the warm and friendly, or
do we like the strong, quiet and intelligent type? We are all aware that for most women it
is very important that a man can make them laugh. And sometimes it is something else
completely that heavily influences a partner choice: money!
Men subconsciously feel attracted to those women who remind them of the first love of
their lives: their mother, and equally women would have a preference for a man who
reminds them in some ways of their father.
Research has found that a mother influences her son’s expectations. She indicates
what she is looking for in a partner but she also influences her son on female
characteristics. So if she is a warm-hearted and friendly person, her son will believe that
this is indicative for the female species. Those sons are likely to grow up to become
warm and responsive lovers who are also willing to take more responsibility in the
household.
Equally, a mother with a depressive personality who exchanges friendliness with bouts
of coldness and rejection may raise a son who is afraid of commitment and who in
terms of finding the right woman, will always be looking at the grass on the other side of
the fence.
Daughters are influenced by the first male love in their lives, their fathers. The fathers’
character often determines how women relate to the opposite sex. Fathers who are very
supportive may raise daughters who are open and supportive themselves as their
fathers have made sure they always feel good about themselves. The opposite is true of
women whose fathers were distant, cold and critical. They do not have such high degree
of self esteem and this is reflected in their relationships.
Genetically, men are programmed to prefer ample breast and broad curvy hips as this, in
general, almost guarantees healthy offspring due to easy childbirth and sufficient
nourishment. Women genetically prefer the broad shoulders for protection and the firm
muscled buttocks for sexual longevity increasing the chance of impregnation.
In spite of many years of the media’s attempts to subdue the male preference for a curvy
woman and the creation of the skinny woman as the ideal body shape, in the two couple
of years, curvy women are back onto the scene and even in fashion, the last stronghold
of the hollow eyed “bag-o-bones” woman, designers are beginning to use more and
more full figured women on their catwalks.
Many men, after years of hiding the fact that they preferred the fuller figure and were
forced to seek relationships with skinny women, do no longer need to hide the fact that
they have a preference for a plus size figure. DatingBBW.co.uk, a long standing dating
website in the United Kingdom has noticed the difference as more men join the site and
more curvy women will use internet dating to find a suitable partner who loves them for
their curves and not in spite of them. Having a curvaceous figure is becoming once more
the symbol of what is attractive in a natural healthy woman.
